How to be a feminine and elegant woman

In today's post, I'm going to tell you how to be feminine and elegant, so prepare your favorite drink and get comfortable. Now, let's get started!

But first, before explaining how to be feminine and elegant, let's define what it means to be feminine and what it means to be elegant.

Being feminine is showing your feminine energy to the outside, which lives inside of you. Being feminine has to do with connecting with your true self, with your own essence, and also how you move, how you walk, how you talk, how you think, how you groom yourself, how you eat, and so on.

And being elegant has to do with simplicity, with what is simple but beautiful. It's showing distinction, good taste, having grace, finesse, gentleness, delicacy and education. It's respecting oneself and others.

Now, I'm going to give you eleven keys so that you can be feminine and elegant:

Number 1: watch your posture. Having good posture is essential if you want to be a feminine and elegant woman.

What is good posture? It's shoulders slightly back, chest slightly up, head high but without raising the chin as this would be arrogance, and a smile. This posture will not only help you to be more feminine and elegant, but it will also change your mood for the better. I don't know if you know this, but you can change your mood by simply changing your body language.

When sitting down, try not to cross your arms as this is closed body language. Let your hands rest gently on your lap.

And don't sit with your legs open, but with your legs together.

Number 2: look in your closet. See if you have feminine and elegant clothes in your closet. If you want to look more feminine and elegant, I advise you to opt for more dresses and skirts. This doesn't mean you have to get rid of all your pants, as there are dress pants that are very feminine and elegant.

And jeans and shorts are very flattering.

But as much as possible, try to include more skirts and dresses in your wardrobe.

And as for colors, opt for neutral tones such as white, black, beige, cream, camel or gray, or pastel colors. These types of colors will make you look more feminine and elegant.

Number 3: watch your way of speaking. Try not to swear. Try to pronounce the words properly. Go through each letter, each syllable as if you were savoring them.

You don't need to speak quickly, there is no rush. A slow and calm tone when speaking is much more feminine and elegant than speaking very quickly.

Try to have good diction. For this, you can read a lot or listen to talks and conferences by people who you like the way they speak. Reading a text aloud is also a good way to train and develop your diction.

Number 4: avoid gossip. Gossip come loaded with negative energy and this is not what a feminine and elegant woman transmits.

If you are in a conversation in which there is gossip, you can say something positive about the person they are gossiping about if you feel like it, but personally I recommend you stay away from those people because it's very difficult for you not to gossip if you are surrounded by those people.

If you spend your time surrounded by people that gossip, you will do it too because we human beings are the average of the five people with whom we spend the most time.

Number 5: learn to be in your body. If you spend all your time in your mind, this means that you are in your masculine energy, and in order to transmit femininity to the outside you need to be in your feminine energy, and you achieve this by going down to your body, which is where your feminine energy resides.

Don't get me wrong, your masculine energy is wonderful too, but it serves for other purposes that I will tell you about in other posts.

For now, stay with the fact that in order to emanate femininity, you need to be in your feminine energy, which lives in your body and not in your mind.

Be in your body and see if you notice any sensations. It may be a little tension in your shoulders, perhaps. If so, don't try to delete it. Just observe it with curiosity. Over time, you will get used to understanding the messages your body sends you.

Number 6: connect with your emotions and feelings. This is a very feminine thing.

Don't be afraid of your emotions and feelings, since all they are doing is trying to give you information, even emotions that are less pleasant, such as envy, jealousy, anger or sadness, so try not to repress them.Listen to them, see what they want to tell you.

And the same with pleasant emotions, such as joy, gratitude, peace or optimism, don't repress them either.

You can write in a journal how you feel. This is a great way to release your emotions and prevent them from becoming stagnant or repressed in your body, and it will also help you get to know yourself better and be more in touch with them, with your emotions, with your feelings.

Number 7: send thank you notes. If you have attended an event, a meal or a party and you felt comfortable there, it's very elegant to send a thank you note to the host. You will stand out a lot because almost no one does this and the host will feel very good when reading your words and knowing that you had such a good time.

Something a feminine and elegant woman tries to do is make others feel good.

Number 8: take care of your internal dialogue. Most people have very negative self-talk. They are constantly badmouthing themselves and this does not bring you anything good.

If you want to be a feminine and elegant woman, then it's essential that you take care of your internal dialogue. Speak to yourself with love, with care, with compassion and respect.

You can use positive affirmations to reprogram your mind to be more positive. For example, you can say "I love myself just the way I am", or "I'm worthy", or "I deserve all the best", or "I achieve everything I set my mind to".

Number 9: collaborate with other women. Collaborating is a very feminine quality.

Instead of envying, criticizing, comparing and competing with other women, collaborate with them.

There is a saying that for a woman, there is no worse enemy than another woman. And this, sadly, happens many times.

However, being feminine means loving and respecting yourself, and if you love and respect yourself, then you have no reason to envy, criticize, compare or compete with other women because you understand that you are unique, special and unrepeatable. So instead, admire them and collaborate with them.

Of course, if a woman behaves badly towards you, immediately eliminate her from your life.

But if there are women who have not done anything wrong to you, then seek to collaborate with them and admire them if they are or do something that you admire instead of envying them, criticizing them, comparing yourself and competing with them.

Number 10: spend time with other women. The best way to recharge with feminine energy and stay in touch with your femininity is to spend time with other women.

But make sure they are quality women, that they give you good vibes, that they contribute to you, and that they support you and that they are on your side.

Choose your girlfriend carefully and spend time with them.

You can also spend time with women that are older than you (your mother, your older sister, you cousins, your aunts, your grandmothers, your mother-in-law, your neighbor, and so on). Older women are a treasure for their wisdom and experience.

But again, make sure that these older women give you good energy, that they really love you and genuinely want to help you and guide you, and that they are loyal to you.

Number 11: when you are in person with someone, put your mobile phone away from you. Constantly looking at your smartphone while you have a person in front of you is something very unfeminine and no elegant.

In fact, it's disrespectful since you are showing the other person that you don't care and that what you are seeing in your smartphone is much more important to you.

Disrespecting another person is neither feminine nor elegant.

And that's it. I hope you liked this post and that it's been useful for you.

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