12 things an elegant woman keeps a secret

In today's post, I'm going to talk about twelve things an elegant woman keeps a secret, so prepare your favorite drink and get comfortable. Now, let's get started!

Number 1: ideas or projects that she is working on but that have not yet see the light. Not everyone is optimistic, there are many negative people out there and if you tell them your ideas and projects, they will most likely try to discourage you.

They will tell you not to do it because they find it very difficult or even practically impossible for your ideas and projects to give you the results that you want. These types of people don't have bad intentions, they are just projecting their fears and insecurities onto you. Since they don't feel capable of carrying out their ideas or projects due to their limiting beliefs, they believe that others cannot either.

Furthermore, if you achieve the result you want in your ideas or projects, this will make those people feel bad and even feel a little envious of you because when they see your success, they will realize that if they are not achieving their goals and dreams is not because they can't, but because of their limiting beliefs, and this is very painful and hard for many people to recognize.

And besides, not everyone is your friend. If you tell your ideas or projects to someone who you think is your girlfriend, but in reality she's not, but only pretends to be your girlfriend because it suits her, when you tell your ideas and projects to that person, it's very likely that she will feel envy and she will try to sabotage you, and may even try to steal your ideas.

Keeping the ideas and projects you are working on private, will bring you a lot of peace and you will be able to focus much better on them since you will not have distractions or people who are trying to demotivate you.

If you need to talk about your ideas and projects with someone, I recommend that you do so only with people you completely trust, or with an accountability partner, or a mentor.

Number 2: her goals and objectives. This is very similar to the previous point and the reasons for keeping your goals and objectives private are the same, so I won't go into much detail on this point.

Number 3: her personal finance. If you tell others how much you earn and about your investments, this can attract malicious people.

Also, don't share with others, much less on social media, the latest luxury item you bought, the expensive car you drive or the luxury villa you live in, as this can be dangerous. This can endanger your emotional and you physical health.

Plus, most people don't really care about your life.

And most people have a scarcity mindset due to their limiting beliefs, and they are not aware of it, so probably if you share with them that you live a luxurious or wealthy life, they will surely envy you and critize you since this type of people tend to hate rich people thinking they are bad people due, once again, their limiting beliefs.

Therefore, avoid talking about your salary, your investments or your debts. This will protect you and will also make you look like an elegant woman who does not need anyone's approval.

Number 4: her relationship. If you have a partner, people can know that you have one, but they don't need to know intimate details about you two.

Whether you are single or in a relationship, keeping your love life private will save you a lot of headaches and you will be able to mantain it at the sacred space that it is.

Don't tell details about your sex life to others, since no one cares about this except you and your partner. Furthermore, by telling your sexual life in detail, what you are also doing is unnecessarily exposing your partner and it's a lack of respect towards him because if he knew what you were saying about him on a sexual level, he wouldn't like it.

Therefore, don't tell anyone the intimate details of your love life.

Not even your family or your girlfriends because although they love you and give you well-intentioned advice, they can make mistakes and accidentally ruin your love life since they are giving you their opinion from their point of view, from their experiences, which they don't have to be valid for you too.

If you need to talk about your love life with someone, you can go to a good relationship therapist. Personally, I recommend you Helena Hart, Adrienne Everheart and Matthew Hussey.

But with other people, don't share intimate details of your relationship because the only thing doing this will do is harm you and your partner.

Number 5: discussions and conflicts. If you go around sharing with others the arguments and conflicts you have with other people, you will be perceived as a person you cannot be with because you are always having arguments and conflicts with others, and you can become a source of gossip that ruins your life and your reputation.

In addition, it's a lack of respect towards yourself and towards the person or people with whom you have had arguments, a discussion or a conflict.

Elegant women resolve them privately, only with the person or people involved. This is an act of maturity and emotional intelligence.

If you need help from a third person to resolve an argument, a discussion or a conflict, ask a good therapist specialized in human relations for help.

Number 6: charity works. If you want to volunteer or donate a certain amount of money to charity, do it because you truly want to do it, out of compassion and Love towards the people, animals or nature you want to help.

Don't do it to get the approval, applause and recognition of others. Yes, this also means that you don't go around posting the charitable works you have done on social media becuase many people may think badly. They may think you are doing it to get attention and show off that you are a good person, and since not everyone is your friend on social media, it's best to keep your charity work private.

Of course, you can tell your people you completely trust because they love you and want the best for you, so they won't judge you or think badly of you because you have done a work of charity, and it's most likely that they will support you.

Number 7: intimate details of her girlfriends and family. This is very similar to the point where I talked about no telling intimate details about your relationships.

Of course, people can know that you have girlfriends and family. But don't go around revealing their secrets or their personal things to anyone as this is a huge lack of respect and betrayal, and I'm sure you wouldn't want them to do the same to you.

Protect your family and your girlfriends by keeping their secrets, their intimate details and their private life. Let it remain only between you and your family and your girlfriends.

Number 8: secrets about other people. If someone has had the trust and courage to share one of their biggest secrets with you, don't betray the trust they have placed in you by telling others.

Number 9: acts of kindness. If you have helped an old lady carry her shopping bags home, or if you have helped her to cross the street, or if you have opened the door for someone, keep it to yourself.

This is very similar to works of charity.

If you talk about the acts of kindness you have towards others, it may be perceived by other people as if you are seeking approval, applause and recognition, and this will cause them to judge and critize you, thinking that telling them means that you have bad intentions and that you don't have acts of kindness out of pure Love, service and compassion.

Number 10: what she tells to her therapist. This is something that no one cares about except you and your therapist.

So keep what you tell him or her private.

At most, you can tell it if you wish to your boyfriend or husband, your trusted girlfriends and your family, but no more. Don't discuss it on social media or with people you don't trust.

Number 11: her medical conditions. This point is similar to the previous one. No one cares about your medical conditions.

Also, the more you talk about them, the more you will attract those medical conditions because what you focus on expands, and the more people know about your medical conditions, the harder it will be for you to get rid of those medical conditions because there will be too many people giving you their negative energy because many will think "Oh, poor thing", and this type of thinking is very low-frequency and even though you are working to vibrate at a high frequency, if many people know about your medical conditions they will send you a lot of low-frequency energy that will surpass your high frequency and therefore it will cost you much more to heal.

Number 12: mistakes and things she regrets. Nobody is perfect. We all make mistakes and do or not do things that we later regret.

But our mistakes don't define us. We learn from them and move towards with our lives.

And about the things that we regret, we can only change them if possible, and if not, learn from it also so that in the future we don't do or do things that we may regret later.

If you tell these things to others, you are leaving yourself in a very vulnerable position and you are damaging your reputation and your image because not everyone has empathy nor does everyone try to understand others, and even if they try, not everybody will be able to understand you. Many people tend to criticize and judge everything that goes beyond their points of view.

Keeping all these twelve things a secret will give you an aura of mystery that will make you look more elegant and sophisticated, and above all, you will protect yourself and the people you love.

And that's it. I hope you liked this post and that it's been useful for you.

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